“Growth is painful. Change is painful. But nothing is as painful as staying stuck somewhere you don’t belong.” Mandy Hale
Hello! Hope your day started well and you are safe wherever you are and I pray that everything can resume back to normal. I have been gone for a while and every Monday that has passed by I have felt very guilty for not putting up a post. It has been a strenuous three months and every time Monday comes I’m like ‘oh sh*t!’ like my mind is so preoccupied I kid you not, posting a blog was not possible by the time Monday reaches.
Okay, here’s the thing, of late I have noticed myself saying FML a lot, that’s F@*k My Life, for those not familiar with the term. Have you ever had those times in your life you just feel life is messing with you, like anything you do doesn’t work out or blows up in your face? When what used to bring you comfort doesn’t anymore? Constantly stressed out and never having a break from it, so it feels like forever even though it’s literally three months. I find emotions a bit annoying, to be honest, specifically negative ones, but they are part of the human condition and are necessary for growth. It gives you time for introspection and challenges you as an individual and how one reacts says a lot about their character. It is important not to run away from these feelings of sadness because they will keep catching up with you. If you were raised to always be strong and keep it moving so you always find ways to keep moving on, you’re doing yourself a great injustice. Going through these feelings and letting yourself experience them is what brings growth, remember growth is painful but builds a better version of yourself. So how would one get through it? First, you must remember it’s okay to feel sad but don’t feel sorry for yourself, self-pity is depraving, remember that times of worry and troubles don’t last forever even though it may feel like it. Take time to go through the feelings but do not wallow in them for too long, give yourself fun distractions every now and then as it will give you something positive to think about. Positive thoughts are very powerful. Read the bible, Quran, inspiring quotes etc. to keep reminding you that there is always a light at the end of the tunnel. I have a friend, Mugambi you know yourself *wink, who was sending really great short advice every day about disappointment and adversity, they really helped me and were heaven sent. They honestly they helped me, so if you are reading this thank you Mugambi, you helped me more than you know . Avoid comparing yourself to someone who is in a worse off position than yourself to feel better. Personally, I have come to dislike that technique of ‘at least I’m better off than so and so’ it’s actually negative thinking and you are trying to steer yourself into positivity, so concentrate on you and not other people’s misfortunes to feel better about yourself.
Life is a roller coaster, I have never ridden one but I can imagine the most exhilarating ones are those full of ups, downs and twists. So when you’re old and grey and look back at your life you see that you truly lived. Life cannot be a monolith, it is not black and white but a box full of crayons, both dark and light colours create beautiful compositions. Nothing lasts forever even the good times and the bad times let us enjoy the good in life even more because we can appreciate it better. Yin and Yang, dark and light, life is a balance and sometimes saying FML is what you need to do in the moment so that you can YOLO when times are good. Be cautious though, there are two types of pain, one that makes you stronger and one that is useless, pain that’s only suffering. Have zero patience for things that are useless to you.Hope this helps you my awesome reader, thanks for stopping by :-* .
Photography- The travellers (Sizlo) Makeup-Me
Top – Mr.Price
Jeans – thrift
Shoes – here
watch – gift
Earrings – Super Cosmetics